These are the random ramblings of a cartilaginous being who was dropped here from space for the sole purpose of reporting back to her home planet who has conveniently changed their number.

 

Was watching an episode of Golden Girls when one of the main characters of the story comes out to be a transgender man. The mother of one the the girls, Sophia, having said there was something off about him the whole time screams out, “I knew it!”. When asked how she knew as no one else did, she explained, “Look at that nose! I knew he had to be Italian!!”

And that was the end of it, the joke being that Sophia always knows a fellow Italian. They did not change pronouns once they knew and no one cared. 

And this was in the 80’s! What is wrong with common day media?!

namihatfield:

I’ve about had it with cisgender people not only assuming my gender, but making the wrong assumption. I have been on HRT for around three months, have long hair, I have soft skin, I wear women’s clothing including skirts and dresses, I have breasts (all be it small ones, but I do have them and wear a bra), and I am careful to shave (at least twice a day for my face and once a day for my legs and arms), pluck my eyebrows and get laser treatment. Even with all of this more than half the cisgender people I meet frequently mess up on my pronouns frequently and don’t even bother ever asking me how I identify. This constantly puts me in the difficult situation of either wondering if it is worth it to correct them or if it is just too much trouble. Even after reminding or correcting these people they still often slip up, which frustrates me (why they had trouble in the first place gendering me properly is even a mystery).
Those who usually gender me correctly are those who are most of the time the friendliest, and have the least amount of trouble with pronouns. These people generally never have misgendered me in the first place and assumed right away that I am female or asked and remembered my response. So it really does bother me when I have reminded someone at least twice and they still slip up when others have never had a problem addressing me properly, including people who are outside of the LGBTQ community. It shouldn’t be that hard to remember someone’s personal pronoun and respect it.
I feel as though a lot of the people misgendering me do so out of apathy, rather than spite. They don’t seem to realize how marginalizing or dysphoric it makes me feel to be addressed improperly and to be denied the use of the proper pronoun. 
These people can make me feel as though I am ugly or doing a poor job trying to transition, and even though I try to avoid these feelings often it is hard to do so and totally frustrating. The worst part though is that it doesn’t seem like there is any sort of reasoning behind it other than apathy. Often the people misgendering me are those I don’t know all that well from within the LGB community, who I feel should be better allies and should really care more about their transgender siblings. It frustrates me a great deal that this is the case that those within the community of all people don’t seem to care about how rude it is to misgender others.

(1) God damn I wish you were still at CSUN
(2) I am going to steal your hair and nails
 
And now onto my real response:
Seriously, I cannot even begin to understand your situation and I want to apologize for idiots. I have been miss-gendered and I know, even being born a woman, it made me want to cry. I know, for my friends at the very least I always ask what pronouns they prefer, but I’m sorry that others do not. It is an assumption on our part, we decide as children what makes a woman and what makes a man, so without proper educating, these gender stereotypes are perpetuated. My sister has long hair, hips and clear breasts; where as I wear a padded bra, have next to no hips thanks to my size and am trying to grow out my hair, so I am constantly miss-gendered, even after multiple corrections. However; had you not been brave enough to share your experiences, I wouldn’t have even brought mine up because I am so ashamed.

Just remember what a beautiful and amazing woman you are. Know that idiots like will become the minority if only strong people like you keep your voices loud. Hopefully your posts and knowledge will teach and help to change minds for the better. You, my dear, have my supreme gratitude and respect for everything you do. Thank you for being so resilient in your journey. 

namihatfield:

I’ve about had it with cisgender people not only assuming my gender, but making the wrong assumption. I have been on HRT for around three months, have long hair, I have soft skin, I wear women’s clothing including skirts and dresses, I have breasts (all be it small ones, but I do have them and wear a bra), and I am careful to shave (at least twice a day for my face and once a day for my legs and arms), pluck my eyebrows and get laser treatment. Even with all of this more than half the cisgender people I meet frequently mess up on my pronouns frequently and don’t even bother ever asking me how I identify. This constantly puts me in the difficult situation of either wondering if it is worth it to correct them or if it is just too much trouble. Even after reminding or correcting these people they still often slip up, which frustrates me (why they had trouble in the first place gendering me properly is even a mystery).

Those who usually gender me correctly are those who are most of the time the friendliest, and have the least amount of trouble with pronouns. These people generally never have misgendered me in the first place and assumed right away that I am female or asked and remembered my response. So it really does bother me when I have reminded someone at least twice and they still slip up when others have never had a problem addressing me properly, including people who are outside of the LGBTQ community. It shouldn’t be that hard to remember someone’s personal pronoun and respect it.

I feel as though a lot of the people misgendering me do so out of apathy, rather than spite. They don’t seem to realize how marginalizing or dysphoric it makes me feel to be addressed improperly and to be denied the use of the proper pronoun.

These people can make me feel as though I am ugly or doing a poor job trying to transition, and even though I try to avoid these feelings often it is hard to do so and totally frustrating. The worst part though is that it doesn’t seem like there is any sort of reasoning behind it other than apathy. Often the people misgendering me are those I don’t know all that well from within the LGB community, who I feel should be better allies and should really care more about their transgender siblings. It frustrates me a great deal that this is the case that those within the community of all people don’t seem to care about how rude it is to misgender others.

(1) God damn I wish you were still at CSUN

(2) I am going to steal your hair and nails

 

And now onto my real response:

Seriously, I cannot even begin to understand your situation and I want to apologize for idiots. I have been miss-gendered and I know, even being born a woman, it made me want to cry. I know, for my friends at the very least I always ask what pronouns they prefer, but I’m sorry that others do not. It is an assumption on our part, we decide as children what makes a woman and what makes a man, so without proper educating, these gender stereotypes are perpetuated. My sister has long hair, hips and clear breasts; where as I wear a padded bra, have next to no hips thanks to my size and am trying to grow out my hair, so I am constantly miss-gendered, even after multiple corrections. However; had you not been brave enough to share your experiences, I wouldn’t have even brought mine up because I am so ashamed.

Just remember what a beautiful and amazing woman you are. Know that idiots like will become the minority if only strong people like you keep your voices loud. Hopefully your posts and knowledge will teach and help to change minds for the better. You, my dear, have my supreme gratitude and respect for everything you do. Thank you for being so resilient in your journey. 

genderbitch:

squiter-bites:

scaredycatfrend:

finally, a costume for me

idk guise i think i want to spend 60 dollars to be sexy corn

Sounds like a pretty corny halloween idea

I would totally wear this and hide in a corn field so I can make inappropriate noises at passerby’s.

genderbitch:

squiter-bites:

scaredycatfrend:

finally, a costume for me

idk guise i think i want to spend 60 dollars to be sexy corn

Sounds like a pretty corny halloween idea

I would totally wear this and hide in a corn field so I can make inappropriate noises at passerby’s.

unsuccessfulmetalbenders:

I WAS JUST WATCHING THE POWERPUFF GIRLS ON NETFLIX AND THEY WERE FIGHTING THAT BITCH SEDUSA AND 

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THIS BITCH STRAIGHT UP TOOK THE SILICONE CHICKEN CUTLETS OUT OF HER BRA AND THREW THEM AT BLOSSOM LIKE THEY WERE SOME CHINESE THROWING DAGGERS OK IF THIS AINT THE RAWEST SHIT THAT U EVER DID SEE IN A CARTOON THEN FRANKLY I DONT WANNA KNOW WHAT IS

*Medusa

sandandglass:

“You know your ideology is rigid and outdated when the head of the organisation that just got around to apologizing to Galileo shows more doctrinal flexibility than you.”

So, a year ago I decided I wanted an IUD because I was in my twenties and in a committed relationship (of over 4 years) with a man I love, but I was WAY too young for children. So, I call my doctors office to schedule an appointment after months of research. The woman is more than happy to schedule an appointment but has to ask me, “What is the IUD for?”. I had my phone on speaker and looked at my mom confused and she shrugged. “So…I don’t get pregnant?” I answered quite honestly confused. And the woman apologizes and explains they will not be able to do the procedure. Flabbergasted I asked why. It turns out our doctors office, the ONLY one covered by our insurance, is owned by a church. I didn’t know that was even fucking possible! But I couldn’t get an IUD because they do not believe in stopping the creation of babies as that is God’s will. 

My family has very little money and was on food stamps when I was younger. Food stamps help a little but are nowhere near where you need to be to be healthy and stay healthy. So, realize that the government is fighting to give equal care to its citizens, something I could have used when my family was paying more than half of its income to a shitty church so we could get the medications we needed. Now add in the fact that the shitty church was going to allow me to get pregnant (a child I nor my family could afford) which would give us another mouth to feed with those shitty food stamps. 

Yeah. This makes sense…

Social Experiment

foundmylacewings:

This probably won’t get far but I want to try to see how many queer people there are versus straight people on tumblr

please reblog this post (refrain from liking if you reblog because that will mess up the amount of notes) if you are:
Gay
Lesbian
Bisexual
Trans* (umbrella too!)
Queer
Asexual
Intersex
Pansexual

please reblog (refrain from both liking and reblogging) this post if you are straight: ally, don’t care, don’t support

Watch Three Men Try To Do a Smoky-Eye Makeup Tutorial

 

The final results are usually how my makeup turns out. U.U

I HAVE DECIDED ON MY HALLOWEEN COSTUME! ☼_☼

I am going to dress as a weeping angel and just wait on the corner of my college with the most traffic. I shall bring with my other weeping angel statues ( do not ask why I have these) so I can hide amongst them. I will stand there all day and scare the SHIT out of people.

laurel-whoisaghost:

indolentjellyfish:

I made a bunch of new sea creatures so it’s time for another giveaway. The winner will receive a polymer clay sea creature necklace of their choosing! See all the choices in detail here

Rules:

  • Reblog to enter
  • No more than one reblog per day (no giveaway only blogs)
  • Winner will be chosen by random number generator
  • I will ship anywhere in the world
  • Please have your ask box or submit open to be notified
  • You must know the difference between a jellyfish and an octopus
  • Giveaway ends in two weeks (October 9th 11:59 pm PST)

Good luck!

Omgomgomg.

I sat and cried for two minutes through this plague I’ve caught.